A Place for Jewish Values
A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Congregation
Celebrating Sacred Moments
A Place for Jewish Values
Our Mission
A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Community
Our Mission
Celebrating Sacred Moments
A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Congregation
A Place for Jewish Values

A Place for Jewish Values

We hope to offer a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Congregation

We hope to provide a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

Celebrating Sacred Moments

“The old shall be new and the new shall be sacred.” – Rav Kook

A Place for Jewish Values

We hope to provide a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

Our Mission

We offer a caring and inclusive congregation that prays together, builds Jewish Community through acts of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world), shares life's events and provides education for all ages.

A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Community

We hope to provide a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

Our Mission

We offer a caring and inclusive congregation that prays together, builds Jewish Community through acts of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world), shares life's events and provides education for all ages.

Celebrating Sacred Moments

“The old shall be new and the new shall be sacred.” – Rav Kook

A Vibrant and Growing Jewish Congregation

We hope to provide a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

A Place for Jewish Values

We hope to provide a warm and nurturing environment for everyone who walks through our doors.

Blind Drawing and Messy Living
Yom Kippur 2015 – 5776
September 22, 2015
Rabbi Joseph M. Forman
Kol Nidrei
Or Chadash

Life is messy. It’s not neat and systematically filed like the cavernous corridors of Loews or The Home Depot where a friendly employee will tell you where you can find all of the obscure widgets you need. Life is not neat and ordered like the shelves of a grocery store before it opens to the public who, once they arrive, immediately begin moving things out of place.

Real life is messy. We hardly need leave our own yard to know that. The straight rows of vegetables in our summer gardens are hardly perfectly lined up. And our desktops – whether virtual or real – could certainly use some organizing.

But the messy nature of things should not surprise us.

Let me share with you a story of Sam Anderson. [“Blind Contour Drawing”, NYTimes Magazine 5/17/15]

Not only a writer, Sam is an artist. Not one who sells paintings at galleries, Sam is the kind of artist who draws on the open spaces of the newspaper when he is on the phone with you – likely the New York Times which he writes for – and sometimes he actually draws things that he wishes to save or give to friends and family.

Sam calls himself “an enthusiastic doodler”. But when he began to get frustrated with his drawings, finding them boring, he almost stopped drawing. He mentioned this to a friend of his who happens to be what he called “a real artist”. His “real artist” friend suggested he try drawing without looking at the paper. Instantly his drawings came to life!

“Finally, my drawing had life in it, just like the art I had always admired. It was ugly,” he said, “but it had a powerfully direct relationship to the world.”

“…a powerfully direct relationship to the world.” Wow!

Described by Betty Edwards in 1979 in "Drawing On the Right Side of the Brain", the technique Sam used is known as “blind contour drawing”. “The goal of blind drawing is to really see the thing you’re looking at, rather than retreat into your idealized vision of it,” Sam explained.

“Blind drawing,” he went on to say, “trains us to stare at the chaos, to honor it. It is an act of meditation, as much as it is an artistic practice — a gateway to pure being.

It forces us to study the world as it actually is.”

“[And] It turns out that the world, on close examination, is gloriously strange.”

“Things are lumpier and hairier than we have been led to believe,” he says. “Planes are never flat; colors are never solid. Matthew McConaughey’s hairline is not the Platonic ideal you might imagine: It is jagged and wandering, like a map of the coastline of a distant mysterious continent. Your father-in-law’s head is squatter than you ever knew. Sleeve wrinkles can be as beautiful as the most exotic flower. Every object (book, pencil, glove, banana) is in fact a bewildering universe of lines.”

The reality is that this “really seeing the thing that you are looking at” can be true not just for objects, but for all kinds of things, as well – things like ideas, people, relationships, love and war and everything that we think we know. Life. It is all -- all of it -- subject to our putting away our preconceptions and really looking at what is there.

Just as blind drawing forces us to stop imagining that flowers and faces and sunsets and boxes are symmetrical and even and easily captured, blind drawing also helps us see the irregularities and imperfections of nature in all aspects of life. Blind drawing helps us better see our own lives, too. It can help us get away from our idealized version of what we might think our lives are supposed to be. It can help us honor our true nature and discover that life is in fact ‘gloriously strange; a bewildering universe of lines; and a bit hairier and lumpy than we might have been led to believe’.

Looking to plan a perfect day, but somehow it goes a bit wrong? This – we can learn from blind drawing and paying attention to what is real, rather than hoped for – is not such an aberration. When was the last time you ever had a perfect day that had no bumps or wrinkles in it?

Allowing ourselves to get away from our preconceived notions of how life should be, blind drawing prepares us to understand that our relationships, our values and religion, our behaviors and our hopes and dreams are all a bit messy. Lots of things we wish were plain and simple and clean and neat and uncomplicated simply are not. Theologly. God. Religion. The conflict in the Middle East. Politics. Parenting. Health. Not one of these topics upon close examination is simple or easy. They’re all bewildering and contain far more nuance than a quick gloss could ever provide.

Real life – every bit of it -- is uneven, and wavy, and irregular and confusing – at times immensely rewarding and sublime, at times incredible aggravating; there are days when we see readily the beauty of life, and there are days when we painfully discover that life is less than perfect – if we can even understand it at And so it goes. Life is messy. And not only are all those wrinkles OK, but actually, it’s better to see the world that way. It is an embrace of life; it honors what’s really there. It honors the full complexity of human thought and emotion, and it honors the humanity of those we love.

On Yom Kippur, our Jewish tradition calls us to seek forgiveness for a litany of failures we have committed during the past year. We are reminded that despite the somewhat pristine image we wish to cast of ourselves, upon close examination, we, too, are “a bewildering universe of lines.” And as beautiful as wrinkles can be, we too need to iron out some of them.

We can be jagged in our thoughts, irregular in how our logic sometimes fails to direct our behaviors. We have complex emotions that can push us away from our friends and family and colleagues and pull us toward them all at the same time. We don't always say what we want to share, or react how we know we really want to. We mess up. Everyone does. It’s part of our essence. But rather than deny it, we ought to get closer to it.

And that is where forgiveness comes in. We are not perfect. We really don't aim to be.

Blind drawing makes us look at ourselves rather than the self we imagine us to be. Our goal, then, is to appreciate the very real undulating irregularities of our lives and those who share our world with us. And then we need to open our hearts’ closets, do a bit of straightening up, acknowledge we all have wrinkles, and then forgive others their failings.

Sometimes, though, blind drawing and seeing the madness is not so easy. When the only thing that meets our vision when we look away from the idealized fantasy is intolerable ugliness, such an encounter is not pretty at all.

The 19th century German poet and essayist Heinrich Heine once wrote, “All I ask is [for] a simple cottage, a decent bed, good food, some flowers in front of my window and a few trees beside my door. Then if God wanted to make me wholly happy, He would let me enjoy the spectacle of those trees with six or seven of my enemies dangling from them. I would forgive them all wrongs they have done me – forgive them from the bottom of my heart, for we must forgive our enemies. But not until they are hanged!” (As quoted in Edge-Tools of Speech,1899, Maturin Ballou, p. 169.)

Not quite offering a full embrace of forgiveness, Heinrich Heine, who might have benefitted from letting go of the wrongs done to him, certainly encountered some of the less flattering aspects of this world.

About the ones we resent, Reb Nachman of Bratzlav, the great-grandson of the Baal Shem Tov who founded Chassidism, taught: when we push ourselves to look for the goodness that resides somewhere inside those who touch our lives, when we succeed in finding those redeeming qualities, then redemption can begin. Our redemption.

Let me share with you a short story – not from the Talmud, but from Japanese Zen traditions.

(A Heavy Load – from Zen Stories)

Two traveling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her carriage. The rain had made deep puddles, and she couldn't step across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there, looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they held for her, so they couldn't help her across the puddle.  

The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put her on his back, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other side.

She didn't thank the older monk, she just shoved him out of the way and departed. 

As they continued on their way, the young monk was brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to hold his silence, he spoke out. "That woman back there was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your back and carried her! Then she didn't even thank you!"



"I set the woman down hours ago," the older monk replied. "Why are you still carrying her?"

The well-known Jewish composer and musician Shlomo Carlebach understood this story. Carlbach was able to look at life and its imperfections with a clarity that was sure.

He had fled the Nazis as a young man. Now a famous rabbi and singer, he was once asked how could he go back to Austria and Germany to perform. “Don’t you hate them?” he was asked.

Carlebach responded: “If I had two souls, I’d devote one to hating them. But since I have only one, I don’t want to waste it on hating.”

Tonight, on this Kol Nidrei, this eve of Yom Kippur, we are reminded that we must look at our lives as they really are. Surely, we are not to waste our souls hating. Tonight is a time for letting go of such emotions; tonight is a time for putting down what we need to stop carrying. Real life is messy. People are not as perfect as we might wish them to be. No surprise.

On this Sam Anderson, the enthusiastic doodler, remarked:

“Part of the magic of blind drawing is the impossibility of doing it wrong. This makes it the perfect antidote to perfectionism, because its first and only step is to abandon any hope of perfection…. [I]nevitably, almost by accident, your hand will produce little slivers of excellence….”

On this eve of Yom Kippur, I encourage all of us to engage in a bit of blind drawing. Such an act of faith in our ability to embrace the true nature of others just might produce in us little slivers of forgiveness.

And that, perhaps, is the true artistry – not of drawing, but of living.

AMEN

What's Happening at Or Chadash

THIS WEEK

Upcoming at Or Chadash
We are excited to welcome our new Office Administrator, Maruska Price, to Or Chadash. Maruska and her family have recently relocated from Florida. Maruska received a B.S. in Management and Marketing from Barton College and is pursuing an M.S. in Human Resources and Organizational Development from Johns Hopkins University. In addition, she has a graduate certificate from the School of Business at John Hopkins University in Leadership. She brings with her a wide range of experience and knowledge. Please stop by and introduce yourself during office hours or send her an email (admin@orchadash-nj.org).
LOOKING AHEAD
Friday, July 27th -  CELEBRATE SHABBAT AT HOME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS  
Friday, August 10th - FANTASTIC FRIDAY BEATLES SHABBAT, 7:00 PM
"Hey Jews," you are all invited to our first Beatles Shabbat on Friday, August 10th. We will "Come Together" to celebrate Shabbat with a combination of musical selections ranging from traditional prayers sung to Beatles melodies to popular Beatles tunes "re-Imagined" for Shabbat. If you would like to be a part of the band, please contact Cantor Kathy as we welcome community support from musicians and vocalists who would like to lend their talents to this endeavor. You are also invited to come in attire representing this historic era of early rock and roll. We look forward to seeing you on August 10th. Just remember, "Here Comes Shabbat, it's alright."
 

Sunday, August 12th- SHABBAT SERVICE AND BAR MITZVAH OF WILLIAM TURNER, 10AM
 
William Turner will become a Bar Mitzvah on August 12th. He is the son of Kim and Dave Turner. William is an eighth grader at Far Hills Country Day School. He enjoys reading, coding, art and playing the piano. William's Torah portion, Shoftim, focuses on being just and the pursuit of justice. William has enjoyed his Mitzvah project, building and giving prosthetic hands through the Helping Hands program. William is looking forward to celebrating his Bar Mitzvah with his friends, family, and community.

MAZEL TOV 


Congratulations to Daniel Weinick, recipient of the Student of the Year Award from the American College of Emergency Physicians.
MAZEL TOV TO OUR GRADUATES
MIDDLE SCHOOL
 
Jordyn Moscowitz
JP Case Middle School
Hunterdon Central Regional High School

Ricky Rainey
Clinton Middle School
North Hunterdon High School
 
Eric Tiber
JP Case Middle School
Hunterdon Central Regional High School

HIGH SCHOOL
 
Amanda Albrecht
Hunterdon Central Regional High School 
University of South Carolina in Columbia, SC
 
Shay Beckman
Hunterdon Central Regional High School 
Fashion Institute of Technology in New York City, NY - studying Fashion Business Management 
 
Jared Belkin
Hunterdon Central Regional High School 
Tulane University in New Orleans, LA
 
Michael Harvey
Somerville High School
James Madison University in Harrisonburg, VA
 
Rachel Parilis
North Hunterdon High School
Rider University in Lawrence, NJ
 
Lyra Tomljanovich
Voorhees High School
Boston University in Boston, MA
 
David Tovi-Jones
Hunterdon Central Regional High School 
University of New Haven in Branford, CT

COLLEGE
 
Rachel Albrecht
Raritan Valley Community College in Branchburg, NJ with a RN license
 
Paul Graybeal
UCLA in Los Angeles, CA with a B.S. in Biochemistry
 
Aiden Lewy
Vassar College in Poughkeepsie, NY 
 
Megan Sansevere
Dickinson College in Carlisle, PA with a B.S. in Neuroscience
She will attend Georgetown University in Washington, DC for a M.S. in Health and the Public Interest
Craig Tiber
Ithaca College in Ithaca, NY
Danielle Tyler
University of Pittsburgh in Pittsburgh, PA with a Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN)
GRADUATE SCHOOL
 
Erica Fuhrman
The College of New Jersey in Ewing Township, NJ with a M.S. in Special Education
Robert Sansevere
School of Dental Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, PA with a DMD
Daniel Weinick
Robert Wood Johnson/Rutgers Medical School in New Brunswick, NJ with an MD
Jon Zalaznick
Columbia Business School in New York City, NY with an MBA
   
Mazel Tov to ALL of you!
IN THE COMMUNITY

Sunday, July 22nd - An Unknown Country, 12:00 PM
At the New Hope Film Festival - New Hope Arts Center, 2 Stockton Avenue, New Hope, PA.  An Unknown Countrytells the story of European Jews who escaped Nazipersecution to find refuge in an unlikely destination: Ecuador, a South American country barely known at the time.Featuringfirst hand accounts and archival material, the film opens a window on the exiles' perilous escape and difficult adjustment as theyremade their lives in what was for them an exotic, unfamiliar land.  Followed by a post-screening Q&A session and discussion with filmmaker Eva Zulig.  Ticket sales begin on June 15th: https://www.newhopefilmfestival/tickets.html

Thursday, July 26th - Blood Drive - North Hunterdon High School, 3:00 - 9:00 PM
There will be a Blood Drive at North Hunterdon High School on Thursday, July 26th from 3pm-9pm.  It will be held in the school's main gym, which is accessible from the Regional Road entrance to the high school (near the turf).  It would mean so much to the school and NJ/NY Blood Services if you came out and donated! Anyone 16 or older is eligible to donate! Any questions please contact the New York Blood Center at (800) 933-2566!  Thank you for your support and hope to see you there! - Jonatha Berg
 

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for High Holy Days and ticket info
EREV ROSH HASHANAH - Sunday, September 9th   
Services, 8:00 PM
ROSH HASHANAH - Monday, September 10th
Morning Services, 10:00 AM
Children's Services, 3:00 PM
KOL NIDRE - Tuesday, September 18th
Services, 8:00 PM
YOM KIPPUR -Wednesday, September 19th 
Morning Services, 10:00 AM
Children's Services, 2:00 PM
Study Session, 3:00 PM
Yizkor Memorial Services, 4:00 PM
Neila Concluding Services, 4:45 PM
Break the Fast, 5:30 PM

HOW TO REACH US
Rabbi Joseph M. Forman
 (Rabbi)
Cantor Kathy Gohr (Cantor)
Betsy Zalaznick (Educator)
Debbie Weiss (President)
Glenn Wasserman (Vice President)
Jeff Berg (Treasurer)
Renee Trambert (Secretary)

OR CHADASH OFFICE
Phone: 908-806-2122
Email: admin@orchadash-nj.orgMaruska Price - Administrator
OFFICE HOURS
Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays: 1 - 5 PM
Thursdays: 2 - 6 PM

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Register for Temple Tots

Temple Tots is a one-hour program led by Rabbi Forman, Cantor Kathy Gohr, Educator Betsy Zalaznick and our Teaching Assistants. It offers enriched programming, story time, music and craft projects for pre-school aged children. This program meets on Sundays at 11:00 AM until Noon (ish) and is geared towards children ages 2 - 5 and their parents, grandparents, or caregivers.

Temple Tots will be held on select Sundays.

2018/2019 DATES
October 7
November 4
December 9
January 27
March 3
April 14

Teaching Assistants

Our Teaching Assistants are role models for our younger students and 
provide invaluable support.   You will be helping out teachers and students 
of Or Chadash Religious School.  

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Sisterhood Sunday Morning Walks and Coffee Talks

Or Chadash Sisterhood Presents: 
Sunday Morning Trail Walks and Coffee Talks
Want to meet some new people, or catch up with friends you only see in the hallways of OC or while waiting to pick up your children? Join us monthly for either a quick walk, and/or a quick coffee klatch!  We never seem to have time to get together, so a nice walk and talk during Hebrew school on Sundays seemed to be just the thing! We will meet at the front door of Or Chadash at 10:15 AM and take a 30 minute walk up Foothill Road. We will return to OC at 10:45 AM for coffee and treats. IF you prefer not to walk, meet us for coffee at 10:45 AM. We hope to see some new and familiar faces. Any questions, please contact Lisa Tauscher (ltauscher@embarqmail.com) or Debbie Weiss (deb1508@aol.com). 

Everyone should ask at least ONE other person you know to join us!

Stay tuned for our fall schedule.

 

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Legacy Circle

The Board of Or Chadash is proud to announce the implementation of our temple’s Legacy Program.

A Legacy gift symbolizes the true meaning of L’dor V’dor, passing on traditions from one generation to the next. To be part of the Legacy Program no upfront funds are needed, only your intention to leave a future gift of any amount which can be changed at your discretion any time in the future.

As part of the Legacy Program you will be honored as part of the Legacy Circle and have the opportunity to create your own page in the Book of Life in both hard copy and digital versions. Our response so far has been tremendous with 28 congregants joining the Legacy Program.

Further information about the Legacy Program and the Book of Life are available online:

Or Chadash Legacy Program

Or Chadash Book of Life

To join the Legacy Program or learn more, contact our Legacy Chairperson, Harvey Gold or a team member consisting of Adam Belkin, Rick Rosenthal, Renee Trambert and Debbie Weiss

LEGACY CIRCLE MEMBERS
Larry & Beatrice Abrams
Susan & Steve Albert
Adam & Audrey Belkin
Kimberly & Doug Beman
Jeff & Christine Berg
Jonathan & Alana Dambrot
Rabbi Joseph M. Forman
Dan & Jackie Freedman
Cantor Kathy Gohr
Harvey & Kathryn Gold
Matt & Jaimee Gold
Steven Grumbach
Chris Hann & Leslie Werstein Hann
Alan Hecht & Maria Jose De La Hoz
Richard & Evelyn Kurtzberg
Darren & Elizabeth Loew
David & Katherine Moutner
Gary & Susan Parilis
Nisim & Alexa Parliyan
Rick & Jill Rosenthal
Don & Sara Schenker
The Senator/Graybeal Family
The Sloan/Gong Family
Louis & Caryn Speizer
Andy & Jane Stein
Rabbi Richard F. Steinbrink
Caryn & Marc Tomljanovich
Renee Trambert
Kimberly & David Turner
Glenn & Eve Wasserman
Ross & Susan Weinick
Debbie & Gary Weiss
Mark and Kristina Witzling
Betsy & Bruce Zalaznick

College Student Outreach

As fall approaches, the Student Outreach Program of Or Chadash is about to swing into full gear. The purpose of this program is to maintain a Jewish connection for our students away from home at preparatory, college or graduate schools. Students will be mailed a treat symbolic for some of the Jewish holidays. The Rabbi includes a delightful letter reminding students of the significance of the occasion. Students tell us each year how much they look forward to these packages and how comforting it is to know that they are still important to our Or Chadash Family.

We create a new “Student Address List” each year, so all interested parents should send in their child’s address for the coming year as soon as possible. You must submit this each year, even if there has not been a change. You will notice that there is space for an email address. 

Don’t let your child miss out on the first mailing!

Click here to fill out the form.

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