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How long is a Family Service?  My kids get tired after a long day of school and activities.

Yes, we know that.  Services begin promptly at 7:00 PM and they conclude at 8:00 PM. We are very aware of the needs of young kids (and their parents) and have created this service to meet those needs.

Where can I see the Family Service schedule so I can put it on our family calendar?

They can be found on the Home page of our website, www.orchadash-nj.org.

On the service listing it says “with seventh (or sixth/fifth/fourth, etc.) grade participation.”  I don’t have a seventh (or sixth/fifth/fourth, etc.) grader.  Can I attend?

Absolutely!  The services are designed for participation by all grades and ages.  Each month one grade is assigned additional participation responsibilities, either reading a prayer in Hebrew or in English, or presenting a topic that they have been studying in Religious School.

Will there be lots of singing and music?

Yes!  Student Cantor Kathy will be playing her guitar and leading us in song at every Family Service.  All students in all grades will have multiple opportunities to participate.

What should I wear?

OC has no formal dress policy. Practically anything goes. Although Saturday mornings during a Bar/Bat Mitzvah folks are much more “dressed up.” Most boys/men have buttons on their shirts and pants–as in shirts with collars and no sweatpants.

Can I take photos?

Yes, during Family Shabbat services things are somewhat more relaxed. Photographs are NOT allowed during Shabbat morning services and afternoon services.

Birthdays are celebrated on Family Shabbat Services.  What does that mean?

If you have or will be celebrating a birthday during that month, you will be invited to the bimah (platform) to receive a token birthday gift (typically a Hebrew pencil or Israeli bubblegum.)  Additionally the congregation will sing Happy Birthday to you in Hebrew.  All ages are invited, members and non-members.  It is totally inclusive.

What happens if my child is not comfortable going on the bimah?

We will not force your child.  We will only encourage.

Can I invite friends/guests/relatives?

Absolutely!  All services are open to anyone and everyone to attend and enjoy.  It is especially nice to invite others.

What is a celebratory oneg?

Oneg (translated to delight) is the party/food/snacks/dessert that happens immediately after services.  It is a time to schmooze with your fellow congregants. Children are expected to take a bite of a cookie and then decide they want a bite of a brownie.  There is coffee served.  It is always decaf in the evening. (OC programs in the morning serve caffeinated coffee.)

What happens if my child makes a fuss during services?

Please do not stress.  Kids make noise.  Kids drop prayer books.  It is totally OK.

Can I bring my younger children/siblings to Or Chadash?

Yes!  Strollers are always welcome inside the sanctuary if that is easier for you.

What is the room with the glass window and shade in the back of the sanctuary?

That is known as the “quiet” room. (aka Room Number 3)  You can see and hear what is going on in the sanctuary.  It is soundproof!   If you ever need a place for you or your child(ren) to be able to spread out and play with toys, “chill” or stretch, this is the room.  You can go there, relax, and return to the sanctuary when/if you are ready (or not!).

Interesting fact!  Why do we sometimes stand and sometimes sit?

Our bodies are in the same position as the Torah.  So if the Torah is out of the Ark and vertical, so are our bodies.  If the Torah is resting on the Torah stand, we are sitting.  If the curtain is drawn open, we stand.  If the curtain in front of the Torahs is closed, we sit.  Of course, there are other times and prayers we stand for (like the Sh’ma or Kaddish), so sometimes it does seem like we are doing exercises. If you are not sure, just follow everyone else!

Is it OK to leave the service in the middle if my child needs to take a break or go to the bathroom?

Yes!  But please try not to leave during the Kaddish prayer. See below.

What is up with the egg shakers?

The egg shakers are all about fun.  They make noise.  Kids love them.  Adults love them.  There is no right or wrong way to shake them.  With a small(er) crowd we have enough for two per child.  With a big(ger) crowd, everyone (adults and kids) gets one. All we ask is that they get returned to the egg shaker box at the end of the service. If we forget to take them out and your child really, really wants to shake them? ask Rabbi Forman or Cantor Kathy to get them.

What is the Mi Shebeirach prayer?  Why are people calling out names?

Rabbi Forman will say, “At this time in our service we think about others in our community who are ill or in need of healing.  In a few moments I’m going to ask you to share the names of your friends, family and loved ones… Rabbi Forman will look around the room and people just call out names.  You just say a name out loud, your children can do this too.  It can be a friend, a teacher—anyone. Sometimes two people will say a name at the same time.  It is as if they were said in unison.  It is ok.

What is the Kaddish prayer and why does the mood seem different in the sanctuary during this prayer?

If there was one time in the service where you as a parent want to teach/instill/introduce “service decorum”–even to a young(er) child(ren) this might be it.  The Kaddish prayer is a special prayer that is said at the end of the service. We stand up when we say this prayer.  It is a prayer for those people in our community who are remembering loved ones who are no longer with us.  It is important to preserve the quietness and the serenity and dignity and reverence and respect for those remembering during this special time.  This is the one time in the service that we would prefer there to be no bathroom breaks.  Again, it is a learning process.

What is Hanukkah?

That is a great question, but too long for this frequently asked question page! Click here to see our Hanukkah page which has an explanation of the holiday.

How do you spell this holiday anyway?

It is most commonly transliterated to English as Chanukah, Hanukkah or Hannukah.  As such, you may spell it anyway you wish!

When does Or Chadash celebrate Hannukah?

Or Chadash celebrates Hanukkah on the Shabbat closest to the holiday, while trying to accommodate the secular calendar, too.

What time is the service?

The Hannukah service is always a Family Shabbat Service.  That means it begins at 7 PM and will conclude in one hour.

Do I need to bring anything to the service?

We encourage you to bring your Hanukkah Menorahs to our celebration.  We will place them on tables in front of the bema and have a group lighting ceremony.  We encourage you to bring as many Menorahs as you would like.

Should I bring candles?

No. Or Chadash provides candles.

What time does the lighting of the candles occur?

We need to light the Hanukkah candles before we light the Shabbat candles.  So it is first. So, if you are late to the service you will miss the candlelighting!  Remember, services will start at 7PM.

Is there anything else I should bring?

We would love for anyone who can to make Latkes to do so and share them during our Oneg (celebratory meal after the service).   (Frozen/homemade/store purchased,  sweet potato, vegetarian, gluten free, egg free–we love them all!)

Please let us (admin@orchadash-nj.org) know that you can help.  Thank you in advance.

Can I bring my extended family or friends to the service?

Of course!  Always! Or Chadash is open to all.  Friends, family and neighbors of all ages are encouraged to join us.  Our Family Services last one hour, and there will be lots of singing.  Song sheets are provided.

Is there a special Oneg (celebratory meal after the service)?

Yes.  In addition to an oneg filled with latkes and chocolate gelt coins, we will also be making edible dreidels as well as injectable sufganiyot (donuts that we fill with jelly— they don’t do latkes in Israel!).

Are there any other Or Chadash traditions for Hanukkah?

Yes.  Or Chadash is proud of its efforts to support Ner Shel Tzeddakah in our community.

What is Ner Shel Tzeddakah?

Hanukkah has traditionally been a time of giving gifts and/or gelt (money) to children. In Eastern Europe, children were dismissed from school early to enjoy their small bit of pocket money and have some time off during the holiday. As we all know, this tradition of gift giving and receiving has magnified over the years.

As Jews, we wrestle with the extent to which we should allow our secular culture of commercialism to undermines the true meaning of our celebration.  Hanukkah can be a time to reexamine what we consider gifts to be and how we go about giving and receiving gifts.

Ner Shel Tzeddakah (“Candle of Righteousness”) is a project in which families and individuals devote the sixth night of Hanukkah to helping others.  We encourage everyone to donate the value of the gifts (or the gifts themselves) that otherwise would be exchanged on that night to organizations that assist others in our community. By making donations on the sixth night of Hanukkah, families help the Jewish candle of righteousness glow brightly for those in need.

What does Or Chadash specifically do?

Or Chadash chooses a community organization to donate the funds which we collect for Ner Shel Tzeddakah.

How quickly do you need me to participate? The sixth night is approaching.

We would love for you to participate as soon as possible but we do have a little extra time.

Do I have to go to the Shabbat Hanukkah service to participate in Ner Shel Tzeddakah? How can I/we participate in Ner Shel Tzeddakah?

No attendance is not required to participate.  It is SO easy.  There is a link on the front page of our website.

For additional information, please visit https://reformjudaism.org/jewish-holidays/hanukkah

What is Mitzvah Day? When is it held?

Or Chadash’s Mitzvah Day is held on the third Sunday in May.

Mitzvah is a Hebrew word meaning both an act that fulfills a commandment and a charitable deed – and refers to the day on which our entire community gathers to perform acts of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world). This annual event is an opportunity for our community to gather together and do projects that benefit the greater Hunterdon County community, as well as our Or Chadash home.

There are projects and programs are designed for young children as well as adults, and the projects have been crafted to meet many levels and abilities.

Mitzvah Day is not a “drop-off” situation for young children, but parents can typically leave their children engaged in an activity so they can work on other tasks. Many parents find Mitzvah Day a real family bonding opportunity.

Mitzvah Day is often mentioned as a favorite memory for our Religious School kids in both their Bar/Bat Mitzvah and Confirmation comments.
Never underestimate the power of a doing a Mitzvah! Mitzvah Day starts at 8:45am and ends around noon on Sunday.

Is Mitzvah Day held rain or shine?

Yes! Rain or shine, but the sun always shines on Mitzvah Day!

What should I bring/wear to Mitzvah Day?

It is always a good idea to dress casually and to bring “work” gloves. We encourage you to bring gardening tools (WITH YOUR FAMILY NAME marked on them) because if there is any “down time” the grounds can always use some tending. Please also bring a smile anda positive attitude. It really makes a difference.

What are Mitzvah Day team captains?

Each project has a “team captain” — an adult or mature teen who will be supervising the activity. If you are interested in being a team captain please contact Betsy Zalaznick.

Do I have to pre-register for a project?

It is important that we know that you will be in attendance, and pre-registration
REALLY REALLY helps. Of course, we always have spaces for walk-in volunteers, and adjustments are made as needed, but pre-registering really helps make sure you and other volunteers have the best possible experience.

There is an option on the registration form: “please sign me up for where I am needed”, If you choose this option, we will place you in an “open” spot which is terrific because we can assign you to a task that needs to be staffed.

Where do I register for Mitzvah Day?

The registration form is on the front page of our website.

Can I volunteer with my friends? Can I bring non-members to help on Mitzvah Day?

Yes, we love engaging our community to assist on Mitzvah Day.
While we are not able to set aside volunteer spots for groups of friends, feel free to talk with your friends and plan to sign up for the same project. And of course, Mitzvah Day is also a great chance to connect with new people!

The project I wanted is full. Can you squeeze me in?

Because of limitations in space, supplies, or tasks, most projects have a cap on volunteers. If the project you were most interested in is full, please check out the list of projects to see what else might interest you.

When I register for a project, how will I find out where to be and when?

Please plan to arrive at Mitzvah Day at 8:45 AM. If you know this will be difficult and have committed to bringing supplies, please make sure they are dropped off at Or Chadash by the Thursday before Mitzvah Day. (We need your bread to make the PB&J sandwiches…)

We will have a short opening program before we get to work, and this early morning time is a nice opportunity to connect with our community. If your project is “off site” we will gather at Or Chadash, and you and your team captain will regroup after the opening program and receive driving directions before heading to your activity.

I’m out of town on Mitzvah Day, are there other ways I can help? Should I still complete the Mitzvah Day registration form?

YES. You can participate in so many ways. Please complete the registration form. The form was created to accommodate “out of towners” too! Consider donating some of the items on our list of needs– the Food Pantry list, and/or consider making a contribution to Or Chadash to assist in underwriting the cost of Mitzvah Day. Even if you are not able to attend Mitzvah Day, please take a moment and complete the registration form to make material or monetary donations. As part of our outreach to the community we incur costs (cooking ingredients, baking ingredients, mulch, potholder loops, craft materials, etc.) and your donations underwrite the costs of the materials as well as the administrative costs of Mitzvah Day.Please look at form for suggestions.

What if I still have questions or suggestions on how to improve Mitzvah Day?

Our goal is to make a significant and meaningful impact on the lives of our community.
If you have an organization that might benefit from Or Chadash’s involvement on future
Mitzvah Days, please let us know.

We strive to make Mitzvah Day more meaningful each year.

Why do we sometimes stand and sometimes sit?

Our bodies are in the same position as the Torah.  So if the Torah is out of the ark and vertical, so are our bodies.  If the Torah is resting on the Torah stand, we are sitting.  If the curtain is drawn open, we stand.  If the curtain in front of the Torahs is closed we sit.  Of course, there are other times and prayers we stand (Sh’ma), so sometimes it does seem like we are doing exercises and if you are not sure, just follow everyone else!

What is the mishebeirach prayer?  Why are people calling out names?

Rabbi Forman will say, “At this time in our service we think about others in our community who are ill or in need of healing.  In a few moments I’m going to ask you to share the names of your friends, family and loved ones…

Rabbi Forman will look around the room and people just call out names.  You just say a name out loud, your children can do this too.  It can be a friend, a teacher—anyone. Sometimes two people will say a name at the same time.  It is as if they were said in unison.  It is ok.

What happens if my child makes a fuss during services?

Please do not stress.  Kids make noise.  Kids drop prayer books.  It is totally OK.

Can I bring my younger children/siblings to Or Chadash?

Yes!  Of course.  Strollers are always welcome inside the sanctuary if that is easier for you.

What is the room with the glass window and shade in the back of the sanctuary?

That is known as the “quiet” room. (aka Room Number Three!)  You can see and hear what is going on in the sanctuary.  It is soundproof!   If you ever need a place for you or your child(ren) to be able to spread out and play with toys, “chill” or stretch–this is the room.  You can go there, relax, and return to the sanctuary when/if you are ready (or not!).

Is it OK to leave the service in the middle if my child needs to take a break or go to the bathroom?

Yes, of course!  But try not to during the Kaddish prayer. See below.

What is the Kaddish prayer and why does the mood seem different in the sanctuary during this prayer?

If there was one time in the service where you as a parent want to teach/instill/introduce “service decorum”–even to a young(er) child(ren) this might be it.  The Kaddish prayer is a special prayer that is said at the end of the service. We stand up when we say this prayer.  It is a prayer for those people in our community who are remembering loved ones who are no longer with us and the importance of the quietness and the serenity and dignity and reverence and respect for their thoughts during this special time.  SO–this is the one time in the service that we would prefer there to be no bathroom breaks.  Again, it is a learning process.

What should I wear?

OC has no formal dress policy. Anything goes. Although Saturday mornings during a Bar/Bat Mitzvah folks are much more “dressed up.” Most boys/men have buttons on their shirts and pants–as in shirts with collars and no sweatpants.

How long will this service last?

Our goal is for the service to last one hour.  All of our family services (these occur monthly) are designed to be one hour in length to accommodate young children.  Family services begin at 7:00 PM.

What is a celebratory oneg?

Oneg (translated to delight) is the party/food/snacks/dessert that happens immediately after services.  It is a time to shmooze with your fellow congregants. Children are expected to take a bite of a cookie and then decide they want a bite of a brownie.  There is coffee served.  It is always decaf in the evening. (OC programs in the morning serve caffeinated coffee.)

What is Mishloach Manot?

Mishloach Manot (Sending Gifts) is a custom during the holiday of Purim whereby gifts are given to friends and family.  The gifts are typically filled with sweets, hamantashen (triangular shaped cookies) and other small gifts.  In fact, it is the holiday of Purim (not Hanukkah) when gifts are traditionally exchanged!  At Or Chadash, Mishloach Manot is our biggest fundraiser of the year.  The project begins about one month before Purim and concludes on the day of Purim.

How does it work?

Each member family will receive in the mail a letter describing Purim Project and a listing of all of the names of the members of Or Chadash.  The letter will include your user name and a password so that you can complete the form online and select your recipients.  You can use Paypal  — even if you don’t have a Paypal account. If you prefer to not use Paypal, you can mail a check to the synagogue.  Or you can complete the form manually and include your check with the form. In that case, you will mail the form and the check directly to Or Chadash.  Or you can bring it to the synagogue office.  There is a designated mailbox for Purim Project.

What exactly should I do?

You will be given the option to participate at many different levels.   For $18, you can designate three Or Chadash family units to have your name listed on their gift card letters, and for $180 you can include your name and greeting on the entire Or Chadash community’s gift cards.  It is $6 for each additional family you designate to receive one of your gifts.   Approximately 50% of our community participates at the $180 level.

What type of greeting should I write?

Your name will be printed on the card, and you have the option to include a greeting.  (Happy Purim, Thinking of you, etc.  And you can customize greetings for individual recipients if you prefer to do so.)  Some people include greetings and some do not.  It is purely optional.

What happens next?

Regardless of your participation, you will receive a gift container on or around Purim, plus an envelope with a letter inside listing all the people who selected you as a recipient of the Purim Project gift.

Do I have to come to Or Chadash to receive the gift container and envelope?

We distribute Mishloach Manot  (the gift containers) in a very strategic manner by using zip codes and maps (and lots of GPS) and by leveraging our Religious School families to deliver containers and gift letters directly to our member’s homes.

I would like to purchase gift containers for my friends/family.  They are not members of Or Chadash.  Can I do that?  

Yes!  There is an option on the form to purchase additional gift containers.

Tell me about the gift container.

The gifts are simple and thoughtful.  Recent themes include: Springtime, Chinese New Year, and The Jersey Shore.   The fundraiser is all about building community and increasing participation.

What does reciprocity mean?

Let’s say you decide to select 10 families to receive your name on their gift.  And 20 families put your name on their lists. If you select “Reciprocity” as an option, your names will automatically be included on any family that included your family, even though you did not select them, and you will be billed for the difference.

What does Or Chadash do with the proceeds of the fundraiser?

A designated amount will be used for a social action component.  The remaining funds will go towards the operating budget of the synagogue.