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How long is a Family Service?  My kids get tired after a long day of school and activities.

Yes, we know that.  Services begin promptly at 7:00 PM and they conclude at 8:00 PM. We are very aware of the needs of young kids (and their parents) and have created this service to meet those needs.

Where can I see the Family Service schedule so I can put it on our family calendar?

They can be found on the Home page of our website, www.orchadash-nj.org.

On the service listing it says “with seventh (or sixth/fifth/fourth, etc.) grade participation.”  I don’t have a seventh (or sixth/fifth/fourth, etc.) grader.  Can I attend?

Absolutely!  The services are designed for participation by all grades and ages.  Each month one grade is assigned additional participation responsibilities, either reading a prayer in Hebrew or in English, or presenting a topic that they have been studying in Religious School.

Will there be lots of singing and music?

Yes!  Student Cantor Kathy will be playing her guitar and leading us in song at every Family Service.  All students in all grades will have multiple opportunities to participate.

What should I wear?

OC has no formal dress policy. Practically anything goes. Although Saturday mornings during a Bar/Bat Mitzvah folks are much more “dressed up.” Most boys/men have buttons on their shirts and pants–as in shirts with collars and no sweatpants.

Can I take photos?

Yes, during Family Shabbat services things are somewhat more relaxed. Photographs are NOT allowed during Shabbat morning services and afternoon services.

Birthdays are celebrated on Family Shabbat Services.  What does that mean?

If you have or will be celebrating a birthday during that month, you will be invited to the bimah (platform) to receive a token birthday gift (typically a Hebrew pencil or Israeli bubblegum.)  Additionally the congregation will sing Happy Birthday to you in Hebrew.  All ages are invited, members and non-members.  It is totally inclusive.

What happens if my child is not comfortable going on the bimah?

We will not force your child.  We will only encourage.

Can I invite friends/guests/relatives?

Absolutely!  All services are open to anyone and everyone to attend and enjoy.  It is especially nice to invite others.

What is a celebratory oneg?

Oneg (translated to delight) is the party/food/snacks/dessert that happens immediately after services.  It is a time to schmooze with your fellow congregants. Children are expected to take a bite of a cookie and then decide they want a bite of a brownie.  There is coffee served.  It is always decaf in the evening. (OC programs in the morning serve caffeinated coffee.)

What happens if my child makes a fuss during services?

Please do not stress.  Kids make noise.  Kids drop prayer books.  It is totally OK.

Can I bring my younger children/siblings to Or Chadash?

Yes!  Strollers are always welcome inside the sanctuary if that is easier for you.

What is the room with the glass window and shade in the back of the sanctuary?

That is known as the “quiet” room. (aka Room Number 3)  You can see and hear what is going on in the sanctuary.  It is soundproof!   If you ever need a place for you or your child(ren) to be able to spread out and play with toys, “chill” or stretch, this is the room.  You can go there, relax, and return to the sanctuary when/if you are ready (or not!).

Interesting fact!  Why do we sometimes stand and sometimes sit?

Our bodies are in the same position as the Torah.  So if the Torah is out of the Ark and vertical, so are our bodies.  If the Torah is resting on the Torah stand, we are sitting.  If the curtain is drawn open, we stand.  If the curtain in front of the Torahs is closed, we sit.  Of course, there are other times and prayers we stand for (like the Sh’ma or Kaddish), so sometimes it does seem like we are doing exercises. If you are not sure, just follow everyone else!

Is it OK to leave the service in the middle if my child needs to take a break or go to the bathroom?

Yes!  But please try not to leave during the Kaddish prayer. See below.

What is up with the egg shakers?

The egg shakers are all about fun.  They make noise.  Kids love them.  Adults love them.  There is no right or wrong way to shake them.  With a small(er) crowd we have enough for two per child.  With a big(ger) crowd, everyone (adults and kids) gets one. All we ask is that they get returned to the egg shaker box at the end of the service. If we forget to take them out and your child really, really wants to shake them? ask Rabbi Forman or Cantor Kathy to get them.

What is the Mi Shebeirach prayer?  Why are people calling out names?

Rabbi Forman will say, “At this time in our service we think about others in our community who are ill or in need of healing.  In a few moments I’m going to ask you to share the names of your friends, family and loved ones… Rabbi Forman will look around the room and people just call out names.  You just say a name out loud, your children can do this too.  It can be a friend, a teacher—anyone. Sometimes two people will say a name at the same time.  It is as if they were said in unison.  It is ok.

What is the Kaddish prayer and why does the mood seem different in the sanctuary during this prayer?

If there was one time in the service where you as a parent want to teach/instill/introduce “service decorum”–even to a young(er) child(ren) this might be it.  The Kaddish prayer is a special prayer that is said at the end of the service. We stand up when we say this prayer.  It is a prayer for those people in our community who are remembering loved ones who are no longer with us.  It is important to preserve the quietness and the serenity and dignity and reverence and respect for those remembering during this special time.  This is the one time in the service that we would prefer there to be no bathroom breaks.  Again, it is a learning process.

What is Mishloach Manot?

Mishloach Manot (Sending Gifts) is a custom during the holiday of Purim whereby gifts are given to friends and family.  The gifts are typically filled with sweets, hamantashen (triangular shaped cookies) and other small gifts.  In fact, it is the holiday of Purim (not Hanukkah) when gifts are traditionally exchanged!  At Or Chadash, Mishloach Manot is our biggest fundraiser of the year.  The project begins about one month before Purim and concludes on the day of Purim.

How does it work?

Each member family will receive in the mail a letter describing Purim Project and a listing of all of the names of the members of Or Chadash.  The letter will include your user name and a password so that you can complete the form online and select your recipients.  You can use Paypal  — even if you don’t have a Paypal account. If you prefer to not use Paypal, you can mail a check to the synagogue.  Or you can complete the form manually and include your check with the form. In that case, you will mail the form and the check directly to Or Chadash.  Or you can bring it to the synagogue office.  There is a designated mailbox for Purim Project.

What exactly should I do?

You will be given the option to participate at many different levels.   For $18, you can designate three Or Chadash family units to have your name listed on their gift card letters, and for $180 you can include your name and greeting on the entire Or Chadash community’s gift cards.  It is $6 for each additional family you designate to receive one of your gifts.   Approximately 50% of our community participates at the $180 level.

What type of greeting should I write?

Your name will be printed on the card, and you have the option to include a greeting.  (Happy Purim, Thinking of you, etc.  And you can customize greetings for individual recipients if you prefer to do so.)  Some people include greetings and some do not.  It is purely optional.

What happens next?

Regardless of your participation, you will receive a gift container on or around Purim, plus an envelope with a letter inside listing all the people who selected you as a recipient of the Purim Project gift.

Do I have to come to Or Chadash to receive the gift container and envelope?

We distribute Mishloach Manot  (the gift containers) in a very strategic manner by using zip codes and maps (and lots of GPS) and by leveraging our Religious School families to deliver containers and gift letters directly to our member’s homes.

I would like to purchase gift containers for my friends/family.  They are not members of Or Chadash.  Can I do that?  

Yes!  There is an option on the form to purchase additional gift containers.

Tell me about the gift container.

The gifts are simple and thoughtful.  Recent themes include: Springtime, Chinese New Year, and The Jersey Shore.   The fundraiser is all about building community and increasing participation.

What does reciprocity mean?

Let’s say you decide to select 10 families to receive your name on their gift.  And 20 families put your name on their lists. If you select “Reciprocity” as an option, your names will automatically be included on any family that included your family, even though you did not select them, and you will be billed for the difference.

What does Or Chadash do with the proceeds of the fundraiser?

A designated amount will be used for a social action component.  The remaining funds will go towards the operating budget of the synagogue.

What is Consecration?

Consecration is the formal welcoming of a child to our Religious School.  Families join their children at the bimah where each child will receive certificates.

What does a parent do during Consecration?

Parents join their children at the bimah.  Parents are typically kvelling (beaming with joy).

What should I wear?

Our newest students will be called to the bimah so if you want a special photo op, please dress your child accordingly.

Can I take photos?

Yes, during this special service photographs are allowed.

Can I invite friends/guests/relatives?

Absolutely.  All services are open to anyone and everyone to attend and enjoy.  But this one is extra special.

What happens if my child is not comfortable going on the bimah?

We will not force your child.  We will only encourage.

What is Simchat Torah?

Simchat Torah is the holiday that celebrates the reading of the last portion (parashah) of the  Torah and the immediate reading of the first portion (parashah) of the Torah.  Since the Torah is a scroll we resume reading it immediately.

Why is it the minhag (tradition/custom) at Or Chadash to open the Torah around the perimeter of the room?

The Torah is not kept in a glass enclosed box.  It is open and accessible for all to read.  We celebrate this special “book” by opening it up in its entirety and displaying it around the perimeter of the room on Simchat Torah.  This only happens once a year.

I thought I could not touch the Torah directly with my fingers!

Everyone will be given white cloth gloves to wear to protect their fingers from distributing oil on the parchment paper of the Torah.

Can I talk to the people to my left and right when I am holding the Torah as it is encircling the room?

Yes!  This is an opportunity to meet folks.  Introduce yourself.  You do not have to be quiet.  This is not a library!

Why is everyone walking around with flags?

On Simchat Torah, we are celebrating the Torah, and part of the “minhag” (custom) for this holiday is to walk around the synagogue with flags.  Our flags are soft foamy sticks, so we do not have to worry about eyes getting poked!

For additional information please visit: https://reformjudaism.org/jewish-holidays/simchat-torah-and-shmini-atzeret